In life we tend to do things that please and make other people happy. We always want to compromise our values and our principles just to be accepted by those who are around us. It took time for us to do self-introspection, it took time for us even to understand ourselves. Those people who are around us, are having a tendency of thinking that they know you better than you know yourself.
There is this say in Xhosa “umntu yinkos’ uzazi” , no one knows you better than yourself. In the process of pleasing other people, we lost our identities, we waste more time of knowing ourselves better and we waste time repeating the same mistakes.
When you don’t know your true you, you tend to misunderstand other people, you tend to hurt other people who knows themselves better. It is very significant to know yourself.
I know it takes time to know the real you, but trust me when time goes by you will eventual know yourself.
Above all of that you have to forgive yourself first, forgiving yourself about the things you did to yourself and you have to forgive everyone about everything they’ve caused you.
Watch the video of Thandiswa Mazwai “Abenguni”, just hope it will help African Youth to know themselves better.